In place of the popular opinion about men's fears came research scientists. And they destroy all our ideas about life together, bed and men.
The analysis of any fears is, like the interpretation of dreams, an individual rather than a General process. But scientists still tried to identify something in common in men's fears. Family psychologists and extras came to an interesting discovery: 90% of men after three years of marriage cease to be included in the process. Instead, they fill their heads with extraneous thoughts, things and characters that seem to have no place in such a delicate moment.
Aesthetic fears
Scientists say with certainty: all men think about what their partner looks like in everyday life. Some people have thoughts about how beautiful their beloved is, how tender and pleasant she is, and the fear that outsiders may think about her in the same context.
Visit other unpleasant thoughts that went out to the beloved woman, so they try to shift perspective on the situation: picture a floor lamp, the TV or the wall.
Domestic fears
Respondents who have been married for more than three years, admitted that they feel for his wife tender feelings and care, and during intimacy reflect on the years lived and such a typical family life. Immediately these thoughts are followed by reflections on how this month to pay the mortgage fee and whether to postpone the repair of the car.
Many men in bed ponder their failures in life. And some try to remember the contents of the refrigerator, imagining how after all will be able to gain new strength and relax.
Fears romantic plan
Some men may have fears about the adventures of a lover — whether her ex was so good, whether she cheated on him. Another category of men remembers their own secrets and experiences a quiet horror of the fact that the secret can become apparent.
Reflections on life
The thoughts of a man in bed are very diverse — is it time for him to look for a new job, what his wife will prepare for him tomorrow, whether the woman liked the new dress, or maybe she even had another one?
Reflections on marriage
A man going through a crisis of relations, will necessarily think about pressing problems. The one who decided to have a mistress, will be concerned about personal safety: whether erased messages when the truth is revealed. More sensual men can think about the injustice of life and regret that did not wait for the love of his life and made an offer bitchy and plump wife.
Foreign fears
When men are bored during intimacy or they had a hard day, various extraneous thoughts climb into the head. Some admitted that they often think about what worries them: a crumpled blanket, loans, a spring in the sofa, a "staring" cat, working moments, a child's illness, conflicts in the family, buying an apartment or a flying battery in the car.
Fear of commitment
Men can remember how much they owe and to whom. And it's not just about money and debt, but also about the obligations, promises and vows they made to their wives. After the arrival of such thoughts, the whole attitude goes away.
Fears generated by problems
It could be anything from a broken deal to losing a favorite football team. At such moments physically the man is in bed with the woman, but here in thoughts tries to solve a couple of problems while there was a free minute.
Men are the most fearless creatures, and even if they are afraid of something, they still try to keep the brand. But after 3-5 years of marriage, the spouses begin to "get tired" of each other: the relationship loses its novelty, the thrill goes away, the partners know each other from and to and can no longer please themselves with something new. Marriage becomes monotonous and cyclical, so the thoughts that used to stirs the blood, are replaced by thinking of something everyday and ordinary.